They're still together and we pretend nothing happened. She is wheelchair bound and dependant on Bill. My parents have been married for 42 years and have a very pro-marriage stance. Idk anything about this man or his wife, aside what parts they've played in my mother's exploits. Yes, she has every right to be hurt. She'll be alone with her demons, and she'll crumble! I feel so betrayed but he is acting as if nothing out of the ordinary has happened. I've seen both men and women become psychologically healthier through an affair.
This is not telling a lie and I don't think they will begrudge me for this. Someone unbiased, who can help him sort through those complex feelings. She later apologized for telling me everything she did. What about her future wedding? No matter what life event occurs. I mean, both are okay - but the cheating part isn't.
My father had recently be informed of it by the son in question who, upon reaching adulthood, began to question his lineage by observing how dissimilar especially in temper he was to his father and how he resembles mine. Last week, she called me and asked why I am so aloof. It's low down and dirty. The dynamics of her life are different. But then I came across this concept of empathy vs compassion in a Sam Harris podcast, though there seems to be a lot of literature on the topic across the internet.
They are in the middle of a vicious divorce. How did you find out? Further, he lied about where they had met. My daughter knows nothing about it yet, but my wife and I are deeply disturbed that she might find out from the crazy lady I got involved with. But and I mean but I am so so hurt , he is adimant that he's not going to share any details other than it went on for a few years. Everything else is under her control still.
She forgave him and they were married until he eventually divorced her years later. My son was too young to have noticed anything when he had his first admitted affair. Unfortunately, since then, things have only gone downhill for our family. My apologies if I misinterpreted what you wrote. There are two sides to every story and usually much more going on than what is seen on the surface.
Stop coming off as overly righteous like what you did was not wrong. Mom, if that is the case, it is really disgusting. There is no comparison of infidelity to other problems and there is no possible justification for it. Marriages are challenging and both people contribute to their success. This whole situation has caused me to go into a deep depression and I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel. My dad was unfaithful to my mother several times throughout their marriage. Please listen to the others.
I wish I had seen what I see now back then. My mom was a neurotic, controlling crazy woman. I went to a vocational school to become a patient care nurse. I was at least a little older, I was 19 or 20, so I guess my dad felt like he was dealing with an adult. I would be in bed in my room, and the walls were thin enough I could hear him talking to this woman late at night.
I guess it is better you work on this now before it actually happens to you. I knew I should'nt read this, but something in me could'nt put this letter down. I would never judge, at least without hearing both sides. Any momentary thrill you get from inflicting pain on the person who hurt you will soon be replaced with the shame that comes from the realization that you reacted to a bad relationship by doing something that hurts others. Papua New Guinea is so violent that more than 820 languages are spoken there. And that was tearing me apart. They don't reddit but better safe than sorry.
Probably not, but again we all make mistakes, especially when we are hurting. He had been having an emotional affair with the married lady, and it continued while he lived with me for a few more months. People make their choices, but I think a non-judgmental description of these six kinds of affairs but with a tinge of can help people deal with them with greater awareness and responsibility. They are too young, for one thing, and for another, it had nothing to do with them. While goals and behaviors need to be changed in the marriage to rebuild trust the biggest mistake is to not move past the blame. Unfortunately he lived with that every day while I tried to keep a broken marriage together.